The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How To Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM play and Much, Much More

Why does everybody need to read this book? I think Carol Queen in the Foreword said it best:

Almost all of us got a terrible sex education. There are exceptions, of course — Unitarians and Scandinavians, students of really brave sex ed teachers, and even a few excellent moms and dads — but in fact, for most adults, it falls to us at age eighteen to make something of the pleasure-based possibilities of our present and future sex lives. Regardless of your orientation and gender, there is a lot to learn, and endless possibilities to consider. (I’ve been teaching a class lately called “7 Billion Sexual Orientations” — that’s a lot of possibilities.) Besides the obvious problems with this scenario — young people who launch into their sex lives unclear on the mechanics of it all — there’s the added problems that you’ll likely hit rough waters in your relationships if you can’t talk about sex comfortably and engage in it pleasurably.

Sexual fantasy is one of my favorite subjects. Always has been. Always will be. I turn sex into an art form and promote its magic every day as an erotica writer when I put pen to page and this amazing book is an inspiration for new ideas I’ll keep coming back to over and over again.

It goes beyond the heterosexual fantasy books and explores rarely dared fantasy topics like threesomes, bisexuality, fetishes (tame and WTF?), and every role-playing scenario you can dream up plus two. But you don’t have to be an erotic artist to benefit from this book. All you have to be is a sexual person wanting to explore that sexuality wherever it takes you.

The Ultimate Guide To Sexual Fantasy: How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM Play, and Much, Much More. Read it. Experiment. Dare yourself. I dare you.

Excerpt:
CHAPTER 6
WEAVING A SPELL: STRIPTEASE, HOT TALK, AND EROTIC MASSAGE

Nothing weaves a spell of seduction like a sexy striptease or a sensuous lap dance. You can bring a lover to full arousal — and some even to orgasm — with dirty talk. A rousing bout of phone sex can leave you both hot for round two in person. And a surprise erotic massage can turn therapeutic touch into an incendiary encounter. Each of these skills has been honed by the pros: exotic dancers, phone-sex workers, and erotic masseuses. When you bring these skills home, your lover will think they’ve found an erotic genie in a bottle, and you’ll reap the rewards of feeling like the sexiest vixen alive.

Putting your sexuality onstage, talking a blue streak, and rubbing ’em down might seem daunting at first — but these skills of seduction and sex play can make you as compelling as a force of nature. Confidence and sexiness are the seductive powers of both the virile player and the femme fatale, and when you develop these deceptively simple talents, you won’t have to be an exhibitionist or have a dancer’s body to make it happen. All you need is the desire to light his or her fire, and to learn a few tricks that’ll turn it into a roaring blaze. Your goal is an encounter that turns you both on.

CONFIDENCE
Every day, tens of thousands of women (and men) get up on stage (or in front of the camera) and take off their clothes. And most of them look damn sexy doing it, too, peeling off their panties with style, stroking their bodies proudly and with grace. But behind every sure step, every inviting gyration, is the person who at one point had to get up the guts to do it. Unlike Hollywood stars, these folks usually don’t look “perfect,” but they do look like screamingly desirable sex kittens and tomcats. Now, you’re not exactly getting ready to perform for a roomful of strangers (though if you are, yay!). You are probably interested in putting on an erotic show for someone who matters very much — or at least whom you want to wow enough to get into their pants. So, you have to wonder, how the heck did all those strippers get themselves up onto that stage? What can you learn from the pros that will help you perform your own wickedly sexy seduction?

First of all, professional strippers have learned to accept what they’ve got. Because we only see a narrow range of beauty in our media, we forget that everyone has the same complaints about themselves. Most people don’t look like packaged porn stars or Hollywood stars in real life. Come to think of it, most of those porn stars and Hollywood types look a bit odd in real life. Erotic performers have learned to let go of their inner critics, for at least a few songs anyway, and let their sexy moves and their careful attention to appearance speak for them. Time and time again, it works, simply because confidence and sexiness are riveting.

Think about what bothers you. Chances are high your concerns boil down to a few very common anxieties:

I’m worried that I’ll look ridiculous.
Plan your scene, learn your moves, try on your outfits, and test any makeup ahead of time. If you’ve done your planning, the only thing your audience will see is a sexy someone making their fantasies come true. They’ll also be excited that you went to so much effort just for them — not many people do. The only thing that might show is your nervousness, but that will disappear after the first few minutes.

What if I screw up?
Make your routine or seduction “idiot proof” by going over it step by step, repeatedly, and don’t leave anything to the last minute. Take every precaution to remove distractions, from turning off your phone to securing pets that might suddenly appear underfoot. If you’re klutzy, be prepared to laugh, smile wickedly at your prey, and distract them by cranking the beat of your moves up a notch. A sense of humor combined with erotic purpose and determination will make them forget all about the spilled drink — especially if you lick it off their hands, face, or neck. Plus, ripped stockings are quite sexy.

My body isn’t what I want it to be.
Join the largest club in the world. Everyone feels this way on one level or another, even the “perfect” people. If you don’t like it, make a plan to change it. If you can’t change it, work it. Make the most of what you’ve got. Chances are high that you’re a lot sexier than you think, because sexiness come from inside, not the outside. If you’re worried about “stacking up” to others with the size of your breasts or the size of your basket, or other measurement concerns, remember that bigger boobs (or a bigger bulge) won’t make you sexier — they’ll just make you someone with bigger boobs (or a bigger basket). And yes, people can be insensitive critics and say inappropriate things — but if you find yourself performing for someone like this, never perform for that person again.

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